Push Back

In her debut book, popular therapist, Psychology Today blogger, and go-to relationship expert Tonya Lester offers a master class on how to be effectively assertive for anyone whose aversion to conflict has led to struggles at home, at work, or in relationships Tonya Lester has a bold piece of advice for every conflict-averse person in the world: It’s OK to be difficult. Not mean, not rigid, not a bully — but the kind of difficult that makes the people in your life see you and understand what you need. Too often, women are encouraged to be nurturers and peacemakers, which carries the implied message that they should also not rock the boat. But rocking the boat — or being assertive — is often exactly what women must do to have the life they want. In Push Back, the Psychology Today blogger and Modern Love contributor explains how to rock the boat, or “be difficult,” in a good way — to do it clearly and